Our Breasts

This blog is by people with breasts, for people with breasts. This blog is inclusive of all people with breasts, regardless of gender. It celebrates the beautiful diversity of breasts, of all sizes, shapes, colours, ages and races. Breasts are such an important and integral part of what makes us feel beautiful and sexual. By showing how all breasts are different, and uniquely special, we will be able to challenge the beliefs around what makes breasts beautiful. There is no single standard for breast beauty! By sharing photos we are demonstrating how every breast is different, and in turn, we will be able to help people with breasts feel better about themselves, improve self-esteem, and show that yes, you are normal.


NOTE: This blog shows photos depicting nudity in a non-sexual setting, and contains written content with adult themes. Photo submissions showing nudity are to be from people 18+ only.


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Asker Anonymous Asks:
So I was hoping for some advice :/ both of my nipples seem to have crusty yellow/white bits in the middle. why could that be? I wash them and when I pick out the bits my nipples bleed. They look gross and I duno what to do
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

I’m assuming you’re not nursing at the moment. Crusty stuff on your nipples is dried discharge. Mostly nipple discharge is normal and isn’t anything to worry about, especially if it’s happening with both nipples. 

It could be caused by a number of things, including an infection, cysts in the breasts, non-cancerous tumors, as well as certain medications, consuming high amounts of caffeine, smoking and hormone therapy.

Discharge, especially if it’s bloody or brown (from dried blood), can be a sign of a serious condition though.

For now don’t pick at it, especially if it makes your nipples bleed, and wash your nipples in the shower. And if you’re not breastfeeding or pregnant, then you probably should see your doctor for a proper diagnosis.

Emma

 

Anonymous Submission: Hi Emma, I’ve submitted before and it was very helpful for me. I really love this blog because it makes me realize so many people have breasts like I do and they’re beautiful. I can’t tell you how happy I get when I see images of people with breasts that are similar to mine. It allows me to take a deep breath and know that there is nothing wrong with the way my body looks; I don’t have to be ashamed. Whenever I show sexual partners my breasts I get so embarrassed and want to push them up or leave them in a bra. I don’t feel comfortable with the way my breasts look if they’re not being held up. I’m trying to be more open with the way they naturally hang. I wanted to submit again because I’m having a lot of difficulties loving my body right now. I’m hoping that encouraging others will allow me to love myself more. Thank you for everything you do with this site and its sister blog.

Anonymous Submission: Hi Emma, I’ve submitted before and it was very helpful for me. I really love this blog because it makes me realize so many people have breasts like I do and they’re beautiful. I can’t tell you how happy I get when I see images of people with breasts that are similar to mine. It allows me to take a deep breath and know that there is nothing wrong with the way my body looks; I don’t have to be ashamed. Whenever I show sexual partners my breasts I get so embarrassed and want to push them up or leave them in a bra. I don’t feel comfortable with the way my breasts look if they’re not being held up. I’m trying to be more open with the way they naturally hang. I wanted to submit again because I’m having a lot of difficulties loving my body right now. I’m hoping that encouraging others will allow me to love myself more. Thank you for everything you do with this site and its sister blog.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hi Emma, I saw the post about your statistics about inverted nipples and the example of redheads... well I'm a redhead with inverted nipples so I guess that makes me extra unique :) I learned to love them because on the bright side, you never have to worry about your nipples sticking out in a bathing suit or other thin top!
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

Haha you’re a rare gem then! How awesome, and what a wonderful combination :) Well not that there’s anything wrong with having the outline of nipples visible through clothing or swimwear, but I accept your point.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
If men are invited to comment on women's bodies, women will always equate their value to whether a guy will find them attractive or not. It would also up the sense of entitlement men have that leads them to comment on women they don't know. I'd also be concerned that there'd be a flux of male comments published after each submission that would turn the blog into a porn/glamour style rating page - even if the comments are positive, this type of thing remains degrading.
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

Men aren’t being invited to comment on women’s bodies. Actually the way I was proposing it wouldn’t allow that to happen. Any comments received would be:

(a) vetted and moderated by me,

(b) would not be specific to any one post, person or contributor, rather would be general feedback and words of support, and

(c) as I originally said, would follow the approach taken on the Male Comments page on Large Labia Project, where comments are posted on a separate page away from people’s timelines / dashboards.

Comments on individual posts are permanently disabled so there won’t be any “rating” going on. People are free to “like” though. Unfortunately reblogging is an intrinsic feature of Tumblr which I can’t turn off, but people leaving unsavoury comments when reblogging end up blocked. But that’s not the issue.

I’m talking about cis guys sending me submissions or “asking questions” with messages of support. Only those would be published.

As for any sense of entitlement, well you may be onto something there. But while I believe that in an ideal world we don’t need to rely on the opinion of someone else, of any gender, for personal validation, the everyday reality for many people is that they feel they need it. The number of times I’m asked by insecure people whether their boyfriends will like “this”, or whether some guy they like would prefer “that”, leads me to believe a more practical approach will be helpful, alongside the idealistic message that it’s best to just be yourself without the need to please anyone else.

Many people come to this site to ask “am I normal?” and all I can offer is empirical facts (where available) and my opinion. Who’s to say that my opinion is better than anyone else’s? (other than me of course lol). My view of feminism is not anti-male. It’s just a desire to not be treated like shit. Having someone of any gender take the time to say “hey, you’re ok” is pretty worthwhile in my book.

Emma

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hey Emma I have inverted nipples and I absolutely hate them I can honestly say that my breast are the ONLY part of my body that I hate. When ever I make out with someone and they go for my breast I move away or just stop talking to them all together. The only people that know about them or have seen them are my parents and my best friend, and although they don't think they are a problem I do. I don't want to spend the rest of my life avoiding intimacy because I'm self conscious about my breast.
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

Hi, well I guess it’s something that you’re going to have to learn to live. They are your breasts and you’ve got them for life, so it’s a good idea to try to make peace with them. A way to start is to establish exactly why you have such a problem with them, not just “I don’t like them” but really delve into why. Then ask yourself where those those feelings or thoughts came from, and whether they are fair (to you), based on rational thinking, and have any validity at all. You might find that thinking objectively about it can help to change how you feel.

How do you feel about other people’s inverted nipples? Is it any different to how you feel about yourself?

FYI around 10% of people have inverted nipples, and upwards of 50% have flat or shy nipples. Compare that to people who have red hair, which is around 2% of the human population, and you can start to put it into perspective.

Here are the posts that ave been tagged with “inverted nipples" and some of my thoughts on the subject. And for those who think they are unattractive I always come back to thinking about Dutch supermodel Lara Stone, who is gorgeous, successful, and unashamedly has inverted nipples. 

Emma

Yes, poor little old you. There we were, discussing rape, violence against women, systemic oppression and other manifestations of sexism, and you had to jump in to remind us that “not all men” do these things. Why don’t you really say what you want to say? “I HAVE NEVER RAPED/HIT/ASSAULTED A WOMAN!” Right? Isn’t this what you really want to say? Yes, make a discussion that is about the plight of MILLIONS of women about poor little old you. I mean, millions of women are being assaulted and oppressed, but you’ve never done it, so why are we making you uncomfortable with these discussions?
Brenda Wambui breaking down the ridiculous “Not all men!” phrase over at Medium. Top-notch work. (via itmac)

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Asker Anonymous Asks:
I love the way you moderate the Large Labia Project comments from men. To be honest I was really hoping this would be an option on this blog. It's one of the first things I looked for when I found this sister blog. I trust that the way you run this blog will not be changed in any degrading way and support this move, if it doesn't fall through
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

sorayachemaly:

(TW) Why Rape Myths and Euphemisms are Dangerous

Last week, an Englishman was sentenced to five years in jail for raping a woman while she slept. As the judge put it, “She was a pretty girl who you fancied. You simply could not resist. You had sex with her.” He went on to assure the man, “I do not regard you as a classic rapist.”

The good old “classic rapist,” such a comfort to ignorant judges, untold numbers of campus administrators,  and polite society everywhere. Also particularly useful to predatory rapists who continue to act with impunity in the face of myth-making judges.  This kind of language enables future rapes and makes us complicit. Its use should disqualify jurists, who, at the very least should be trained in facts before being allowed to sit on benches.

The “classic rapist” is a popular rape myth, like many others involving dark alleys, dark men, bad women, good women, light women, violence, and more. The “classic rapist” is a blunt force example that is easily disproved, since we know in the vast majority of reported rapes the parties know one another—73% are “non-strangers” and 38% are friends or acquaintances.

Most of the time, however, the delivery is more subtle and euphemistic. Consider…

“Had his way with her”
“Forced himself on her”
“Inappropriate behavior”
“Offensive behavior”
“Indecent assault”
“Carnal knowledge”
“Domestic dispute”
“Family matter”
Defiled her
Sexual misconduct
Unpleasantness
And, my all time personal favorite: “took liberties.”

Sadly, this judge is not alone. His language and ideas are those of our traditions and popular culture, including the media—the place where words most shape our perceptions and understanding of the world. In the media, there are so many common phrases that convey the everyday sexism of trivializing and hiding rape.

“Bad sexual etiquette”
Forced to perform oral sex
“A circumstance”
“The subject matter
Bad hookup
“A crime of personal injury
“Assaulted while unconscious”
Inappropriate behavior
“Sexual impropriety”
“Sex allegations”
“Child bride”
Forced to marry
Sex with a child”
Sexual activity deemed…to have lacked consent
Forced her to engage in sex acts
Seduced the child
The child “seduced him
Taken advantage of
Incestuous relationship
Toddler sex case
Theft of services
“Sex Scandal”

"Toddler Sex Case"? Who thinks that writing "Toddler" and "Sex Case" makes any sense at all, ever?

All of this happens in an environment where rape is used as a metaphor, is a trending joke theme, and where a judge canban the use of word “rape” (or “sexual assault”) in a rape trial.

In an effort to end rape doublespeak the founders of the website Ending Victimization and Blame (EVB) analyze media to explain how language like this, which, as they put it, succinctly “panders to the belief that men are unable to control themselves.” It is, as Melissa McEwan has also so assiduously detailed for years, all part of the weave and weft of institutionalized rape culture.Consent, a recent and revolutionary idea, is a bitter pill for some people, apparently also in courtrooms.

Courtrooms are where we’d like to think rape myths and sloppy, unhelpful language go to die, but that’s frequently not the case. Instead, in courtrooms, or on college campus adjudication boards, survivors frequently feel instead that they are revictimized or the ones being investigated.

There’s a high chance that my inbox will be populated by “stop word policing” messages as a result of this piece. l’ll stop talking about reality-shaping words when clearing through our national backlog of more than 400,000 rape kits is a priority for society and the annual tally of rape doesn’t result in the undercounting of more than one million rapes. Changing words to #Endrapedoublespeak is a good way to start.

See entire piece at Role Reboot

 

Anonymous Submission: Boobs are boobs and they are beautiful. I am 20, I wear a 34C bra (when I feel like it) and I love my breasts!!

Asker Anonymous Asks:
what about transguys? they may still have breasts if they're pre-op and we shouldn't exclude them from an environment devoted to body acceptance
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

My sites are inclusive. The only people excluded are cisgender males.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
So can guys still follow?
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

Our Breasts blog is by, and for, people with breasts. It is not for cisgender males.

Emma

This is something I have on a separate page on the Large Labia Project. Tell me what you think about doing the same on Our Breasts

http://largelabiaproject.polldaddy.com/s/male-comments

Only people with breasts please respond - no cisgender males thank you.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hi! I've written to you before. I have tuberous breasts, and I'm really insecure about them. I won't go through everything I already said in my message from a while ago, but I saw your post about having men comment. I personally would like that. I would really like to know what men think of breasts like mine. Especially if a woman, like myself, is a little overweight. That with tuberous breasts causes me major insecurity. So if I can see that some men are ok with them, that would really help.
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

Thanks for your input, which I’ll include with the rest of the comments I’ve received, and I’ll make a decision soon.

Emma

On the subject of male comments, I think if the comments are respectful and not sexual or rude or disrespectful, I don't see a problem with them commenting
ourbreasts ourbreasts Said:

Cool, thanks for your adding your vioce :) Emma

Breasts - https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/SM3JN2G 

Labia - https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/LabiaSurvey2014

I’m running annual surveys into your breasts and labia - size, shape, appearance and your feelings about them. I use the results of these to help answer the questions I’m asked every day, essentially “am I normal?”

The surveys ask you to take physical measurements with a ruler, and answer questions about your breasts and vulvar appearance, sexuality, and feelings about these parts of your body.

Please allow yourself around 30 minutes to complete each survey, and be sure to do this where you will have the comfort and privacy to be naked.

You can do the surveys completely anonymously.

These surveys are inclusive and all people with breasts and labia are eligible to participate. No cisgender males though please.

There is so little research about breasts and especially vulva, so please help me build up some objective knowledge about our breasts and genitals. Everything learned will help to support people who feel insecure about their bodies, and you may learn something about yourself too.

Emma

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